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    Why I Don’t “Like” Your Facebook Posts

    November 4, 2014

    Popularity Of Social Networking Website Grows

    I don’t like your Facebook posts. I love them.

    For eight years you have made me laugh and moved me to tears. You’ve broadened my thinking and inspired me to affect change in my small part of the world.  You’ve taught me how to parent, how to vote, and what to have for dinner. You’ve been the first to give me breaking national news. A few of you have jabbed at my skin to let me see how tough it is; I love what that has done for me as well.

    Until recently, my news feed has been a community center–a roomful of interesting people saying interesting things. So interesting, in fact, that I never knew when to leave. I couldn’t get enough of your posts.

    It got out of hand. I confessed my Facebook addiction in this book after having a little fun with it in this post. But acknowledging my issue to the cyber sphere did nothing to help me overcome a habit that increasingly kept me from my family, the housework and the manuscript.

    I enlisted the help of an accountability partner, and that curbed my Facebook usage to a helpful degree. But I was still hooked to the IV drip known as “social networking.” Thankfully my accountability partner was a person of prayer, and she prayed for me. One day I had an epiphany that led me to change my whole approach to Facebook.

    In short, I came across someone whose life looked strikingly similar to mine in terms of “calling.” What she said gave me a jolt: “Get off Facebook!” Anyone else could have told me that, and many have. I’ve looked in the mirror and told myself that plenty of times. But when she said it, a light came on. I saw myself sitting daily in that chair, reading the news feed with glazed-over eyes and finger joints sore from scrolling, and I made a final and firm determination: “That is not me.”

    And just like that, the taste was gone.

    That was on August 25, 2014. Facebook is, for me, no longer a “community center.” It’s a bulletin board on the wall of the community center, and my new approach is “post and run.” You are free to like what I post or ignore it. I am free to run (after a quick look at other posts on the bulletin board) without the obligation of reciprocation. And that may not seem fair or polite.

    This is hard for a pleaser, let me tell you. But when I’m giving time to my family that I used to give to Facebook, I can hardly feel guilty about not “liking” someone’s post or comment.

    Besides, I love being free. I feel a new lease on life; I am getting more done than ever before. And I am more about “community” than I have ever been. 

    So yes, I love your pictures and your posts. Always have, always will. But I can’t promise to “like” or comment on them any more; I can’t even promise I’ll see them any more. Because more activity means more notifications which means more activity leading to more notifications leading to more activity. Perish the day my kid taught me what that little red notification button that said “97” was all about.

    This is what I needed to do–for me, and for mine.

    What about you? Is Facebook a “time suck” for you, too? Or are you more of a Tweeter? A Pinner? Now there is something I just. don’t. get. Forgive me, ladies.


    photo credit: www.themoderatevoice.com







    One thought on “Why I Don’t “Like” Your Facebook Posts

    1. Another faith-battle won! TGBTG

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